Part 2 of 4 – The Fear Of Love From The Ego Versus Pure Loving Intentions From The Heart

Part 2 of 4 

The Fear Of Love From The Ego Versus Pure Loving Intentions From The Heart

As adults we strive to be emotionally and spiritually mature. We strive to align our mental attitude with our heart. We strive to connect our heart with our head. As adults we become mindful and connect our mind with our heart. The ego part with the child or teenage part will linger on until it has been lovingly and compassionately taken care of. When our emotions and our feelings flow through us, while at the same time capturing the negative thoughts, it enables a deep transformation in the psyche. As an adult it is our responsibility to discern our ego and to heal our heart through soulful love.

When the pain of ego is not healed it turns into a control issue. Controlling one self and controlling others, putting pressure on one self and putting pressure on others. It can also turn into a very strong emotional resistance. This pressure to control how we love and care for our self, or how we love and care for another person is very much intertwined between fear of the ego and love of the heart. The ego has developed and learned ways to have or get love and to feel safe. It did this to be protective. This is referred to as survival mechanisms of the ego. These survival patterns become dysfunctional relational patterns. The dysfunctional relational patterns give birth to emotional turmoil and emotional drama within relationships.

 When the child grows up, as an adult, the man or the woman wants to find someone to love. However over the years the ego has developed internal defensive controlling ways to protect the child from suffering. The energy of the child lives on within the adult. These defenses are filled with systems that are controlling. The controlling ways are both conscious and unconscious. Finding the right person to love will not give the adult the love he or she craves. The heart and soul craves love to heal. The way to feel the soulful love that is needed to heal is through one’s own Essence.

Connect with your Heart and know the soulful needs of your Essence. Heal your heart through love.

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Overcoming Loneliness or Emptiness in your life or in your business and why Google or YouTube is not a healer, coach or mentor.

Overcoming Loneliness or Emptiness in your life or in your business and why Google or YouTube is not a healer, coach or mentor.

Overcoming Loneliness or Emptiness in your life or in your business and why Google or YouTube is not a healer, coach or mentor.

Very often we unconsciously fear reaching out for support for various reasons. I the first one feared this because I did not know any better. As many of you know I was raised with deaf parents and their needs were more important than my own needs (so I though). I learned to get out of my own way for my healing and growth.

Google or YouTube are great to give a little boost that lasts, well… not very long because these do not have the power to offer a deep transformation through trust and connection. It is a machine and not one can talk to a machine to feel heard, seen and validated. Did you know that the very core of worthiness is exactly that!

How many people do you know that live through loneliness or emptiness and do not know how to reach out for support? Perhaps you relate to this. I sure did when I didn’t make feeling good my top priority and felt disconnected.

Why having support is important and not an option?
1. Self-trust increases
2. Self-confidence increases
3. Self-worth (self-love) increases
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Being in Agreement With Your Life Choices‏

Being in Agreement With Your Life Choices

As the new year approaches it is a good time to review the current year and adjust your vision to make sure that it is tied with your values.

My pay it forward is to be a Mentor for a young woman, Anna who is aspiring to become an international entrepreneur. I myself am mentored by a person with the Foundation of Entrepreneurship and I feel very blessed therefore this inspired me to pay it forward.

Yesterday, Anna and I we were talking together before we officially agreed to our Mentor and Mentee relationship of why she wanted to be in the textile business at an international level. She spoke with her heart and told me that she felt this push inside. I quickly got it that these are soul pulls gently tugging at her. She wants to ”value women’s clothing and make beautiful clothes available at an affordable price so women can value themselves with beautiful clothes in countries where this is a challenge for women”.

Quickly the leader in me inquired about vision and values and how this was tied in with her heartfelt desire.

WHY glueing your vision and core values to the pulls of your soul make your foundation very solid?
1. This represents your uniqueness
2. Easily, this motivate you to build momentum
3. The right people show up at the right moment

If you struggle with an aspect of your life and need help to give space to the pulls and tugs of your soul to feel in alignment with the flow of your life there is a solution to this problem. Reach out. Get validation. Waiting that things will get better or change on their own is an illusion and wasted time that gets lost in the space of indifference and fear.

If no one around you fully understands your motivation and does not fully believe in you and support you reach out. I would enjoy connecting with you.

Copyright ©2014 Yvonne St-Louis

Being Well Surrounded Is Critical For Personal or Business Success

Integrity, transparency, vulnerability, mindful with heart & soul are gifts of love and investments. Don’t expect this from people who do not invest in themselves with an open heart and open mind.

2015 Masterminding, Mentorship and Coaching with Mind, Heart & Soul for Personal and Business Success will be announced in January. This Program will kick off in February 2015.

From Scared to Faith

From Scared to Faith

I want to focus on what is the opposite of scared. You will love this. In the letters S C A R E D is also the letters S A C R E D.

Feeling scared usually holds insecurity. It is not the same thing as a fear. Fear can be either the presence of real danger, or uncertainty. When you know your fears you can surpass the fear by allowing yourself to lean a little into certainty by feeling supported with a trusted person, by recalling your past victories, and also by leaning into Spirit for guidance. Your actions will empower you to overcome the fear.

Insecurity is a deep tension. It is a state. There is a good reason why you feel scared. If you ignore this or reject how you feel you are abandoning yourself.

When you take courage into your own hands with the intention of wanting to uncover what this is all about it reveals precious information. This insecure state is transformed with time and action. It does not happen over night.

In order to start transforming the scared to sacred you need to want to learn what is causing you to feel this way. The separateness of ego or deep heartache cannot be resolved through your thoughts and your emotions. It is precisely this that is causing you to feel scared. This can be resolved at a higher level with the intelligence of your heart, Spirit

From Insecurity to *Trust*

From Insecurity to *Trust*

Ways to change insecurity to trust:

  1. Allow your emotion with its judgment to be released to then be enabled to allow the feelings of your heart to  naturally flow. This will enable you to trust in what you feel. You will know why you feel the way you do.
  2. Merge with the intelligence of your heart for spiritual guidance to know what is the loving inspired action for you to take, the loving thoughts you should have, when to set the natural limits of your heart in a situation or with a person.
  3. Surrender the will of your ego for a Higher Will. This will give you your ultimate safety and will definitely put an end to struggles.

When you keep your heart open and listen to your heart it enables you to be real and transparent with yourself. Living through the intelligence of your heart guides you through theultimate security there is.

When you respect the natural limits of your heart by making feeling good your top priority this will lead you through high frequencies feeling high on life and unshakable.

When you listen to your heart the intelligence of your heart guides you in your decisions and actions.This naturally increases your trust and confidence.

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Part 1 of 4 – The Fear Of Love From The Ego Versus Pure Loving Intentions From The Heart

Part 1 of 4

The Fear Of Love From The Ego Versus Pure Loving Intentions From The Heart

When fear is involved love is driven by the darkness of the soul. 

Babies and children need love to know they are loveable. A baby or a child does not need to do anything to be loved. It is natural to love. When a child has been loved the child knows that he or she is loveable. 

What damages this is to neglect or criticize a child, or make a child do what the parent or caretaker expect them to do to have the caring love of the parent. If the child was neglected the child unconsciously makes the decision that he or she is not loveable. This decision persists until the child becomes an adult. Discernment is gained through healing. Everyone regardless of their age needs to be loved, needs to be heard and know that they are loved just the way they are naturally. 

However, if a child has lived neglect or abandonment the painful feeling of hopeless or waiting to be cared for and loved is suppressed because for a child these painful feelings are too much to be with. This is how the ego develops. It is a defense to be protected from suffering. The heartbreaking feeling is buried because the ego’s job is to protect the child from painful feeling. The ego does serve its purpose because painful feelings of the heart are too much to be with for a child. 

When the child grows up the energy of the repressed emotions will be triggered in a negative way. The only way to release the negative energy is to be present by transforming the negative thought and belief that was made up by the ego. 

Being with the present moment is what people strive for. Gaining discernment through the moment present is very precious. Being present for the sake of being present is blissful. However, being present with the present moment when the ego is in full force is when many people turn their power to others by blaming others for their unhappiness. 

Being present in the present moment and gaining discernment of the negative thoughts while at the same time allowing the emotional energy to flow through is priceless. Taking it a step further is grace. When a person can observe his or her thought, while at the same time allowing the emotion to flow through, is a gain of 50%. The other 50% is gained when a person’s Soulful Essence is included in the healing process. This means to be present in your body, more specifically being present in the heart. 

Having gained the discernment enables people to know the truth of their heart. Releasing the pure feelings of the heart allows a person to go to the very root of the suffering. 

With time all the painful feelings flow through while joy and serenity takes its natural place in the heart. This amounts to freedom and grace. It is priceless. Taking action to get emotionally unstuck at times is simply the action of having compassion for one self. 

Many adults have an unconscious belief that if they are alone they will die. When neglect or abandonment is at the root cause of suffering it is normal and natural that it is related to the fear of death. However, through healing what dies is the negative part of the ego because the painful feelings are released and the negative beliefs are transformed. The ego’s job is transformed to be the will of the heart. The power of the Divine Intelligence naturally takes over. 

Connect with your Heart and know the soulful needs of your Essence. Heal your heart through love. 

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Creating a Soulful Vision

Creating a Soulful Vision

Soulful Wellness Theme for Fall 2013: Be the CEO of Your Life

Surviving, Waiting for…  VS  Thriving With Reality and A Vision

Creating a Soulful Vision asks you to keep your heart open. How you connect with what you want and desire is key.

There are very precise ways on how to transform your struggles into clarity and action that is perfectly aligned with your vision even when it gets difficult.  Read more