Insecurity Through *Feeling Disconnected*

What if you are living with immense anxiety and cannot feel connected to Spirit?

This is where many people struggle and they close their heart. Living with a closed heart is what many fearful people do. Living with a closed heart does not stop a person from functioning. A disconnected person will live through their ego. The outcome will be struggles. It is very difficult to live a relationship with a person that is not emotionally available and feel safe.  If you want to live with emotional security in your relationships you need to start listening to your heart. It is this that will empower you to respect the natural limits of your heart and set your limits with what does not make you feel good.  Taking your decisions from the Intelligence of your heart will enable you to trust yourself and feel more confident.

OUR MOST ESSENTIAL NEED IS THE NEED TO CONNECT

OUR MOST ESSENTIAL NEED IS THE NEED TO CONNECT

 

Staying connected to how you feel and to the Source of your Divinity through your faith and gratitude is the life force. Love is a healer.It’s the natural healer. It’s a medicine. True unconditional love has to start with you if you want to extend it to others. True essential needs are centered within your being. It stems from your shine within wanting to be free and create the life you want to live. Being genuinely happy and satisfied! We all need to be loved, to be heard and to be understood. We need to feel secure. We need to be recognized and esteemed. We most certainly need to take responsibility for our lives. Vital needs stemming from an emotional state are closely linked with survival needs. These needs are fulfilled throughout your day. Many times your basic needs are simple. The essential needs of your heart and soul are over and above emotional needs.

If your own needs are not fulfilled, meeting the needs of another person will breed resentment within. Other times you think you know what another other person needs. This involves caretaking. It takes its root from codependency. You are more into the other person than into yourself, or perhaps you do not allow the other person’s soulful guidance to reveal its clarity. Caretaking is natural for those in need. Parenting a child is natural. Parenting an adult that is not in need involves both caretaking and controlling behaviors.

Perhaps you have difficulties with your own feelings in your heart and to feel better for yourself you must do something for another person. Controlling another person to make you feel better is selfish. It is not with pure intentions of your heart. It is subtle. The ego is at times very subtle. Dominating another person is being disrespectful. Every person has their individual soulful essence. This guides people perfectly. Your Essence guides you perfectly. Be faithful to you and connect with your heart. This will enable you to authentically connect with others.

Part 4 of 4 – Essential Needs of Your Soulful Essence

Part 4 of 4 – Essential Needs of Your Soulful Essence

If you are not capable of accepting your self with what you live you will judge your self as needy or will live with guilt. For example, if you cannot accept how you look you will not accept how another person looks. You will not see the beauty because you don’t see your own beauty. Love is seeing beauty.Loot at nature, it is just beautiful. You need to accept your self with unconditional love. You need to be important for your self. When this very fundamental need ‘importance’ is not fulfilled you reveal your intimacy without limits or boundaries. Or on the other hand you might withdraw into your self or perhaps isolate your self.

You need to be important for YOU!

Naturally you know who is important for you. We need to respect ourselves and respect others. We need humility. Humility gives us the gentleness and flexibility. It is the quest of the heart & soul that leads. It has its own rhythm. We need to connect with our Essence, to our divinity. It is the ultimate connection that leads us lovingly to connect together and share true love.

Only let endurance have perfect results so that you may become perfect and complete, deficient in nothing. James 1:4

P.S. Connect With Your Heart.

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Part 3 of 4 – Essential Need of your Heart & Soul

Part 3 of 4 – Essential Need of your Heart & Soul

If you allow your emotions to be the boss of you it will take over your psyche. Your physical body will react in some sort of discomforting way such as pain, tensions, a cold, a backache, a headache, or something else. If you take on too much I mean take on another person’ stuff on you will have back or shoulder problems. It somehow takes the physical body as a hostage. You follow and don’t have a choice. Doctors and mental health professionals would know something about this that’s for sure!

When you naturally follow your heart’s desire with clarity you know exactly what you need. When this connection happens life supports you because you are aligned with your Soulful Essence. Every one of us wants to reach this destination on our journey. Self-respect is gained over time through experiences. Be patient and glorify the victories because they add up. We are on this earth to learn love. Each and every one of us who walks on this planet is here for a lesson of love. Learn to love yourself and share love with someone else. There was never a school for this. We were left on our own for this one. Learn LOVE and to share LOVE.ESSENTIAL NEEDS STEM FROM OUR BEING, NOT FROM DOING OR HAVING.

P.S. Connect With Your Heart.

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Part 2 of 4 – The Fear Of Love From The Ego Versus Pure Loving Intentions From The Heart

Part 2 of 4 

The Fear Of Love From The Ego Versus Pure Loving Intentions From The Heart

As adults we strive to be emotionally and spiritually mature. We strive to align our mental attitude with our heart. We strive to connect our heart with our head. As adults we become mindful and connect our mind with our heart. The ego part with the child or teenage part will linger on until it has been lovingly and compassionately taken care of. When our emotions and our feelings flow through us, while at the same time capturing the negative thoughts, it enables a deep transformation in the psyche. As an adult it is our responsibility to discern our ego and to heal our heart through soulful love.

When the pain of ego is not healed it turns into a control issue. Controlling one self and controlling others, putting pressure on one self and putting pressure on others. It can also turn into a very strong emotional resistance. This pressure to control how we love and care for our self, or how we love and care for another person is very much intertwined between fear of the ego and love of the heart. The ego has developed and learned ways to have or get love and to feel safe. It did this to be protective. This is referred to as survival mechanisms of the ego. These survival patterns become dysfunctional relational patterns. The dysfunctional relational patterns give birth to emotional turmoil and emotional drama within relationships.

 When the child grows up, as an adult, the man or the woman wants to find someone to love. However over the years the ego has developed internal defensive controlling ways to protect the child from suffering. The energy of the child lives on within the adult. These defenses are filled with systems that are controlling. The controlling ways are both conscious and unconscious. Finding the right person to love will not give the adult the love he or she craves. The heart and soul craves love to heal. The way to feel the soulful love that is needed to heal is through one’s own Essence.

Connect with your Heart and know the soulful needs of your Essence. Heal your heart through love.

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Overcoming Loneliness or Emptiness in your life or in your business and why Google or YouTube is not a healer, coach or mentor.

Overcoming Loneliness or Emptiness in your life or in your business and why Google or YouTube is not a healer, coach or mentor.

Overcoming Loneliness or Emptiness in your life or in your business and why Google or YouTube is not a healer, coach or mentor.

Very often we unconsciously fear reaching out for support for various reasons. I the first one feared this because I did not know any better. As many of you know I was raised with deaf parents and their needs were more important than my own needs (so I though). I learned to get out of my own way for my healing and growth.

Google or YouTube are great to give a little boost that lasts, well… not very long because these do not have the power to offer a deep transformation through trust and connection. It is a machine and not one can talk to a machine to feel heard, seen and validated. Did you know that the very core of worthiness is exactly that!

How many people do you know that live through loneliness or emptiness and do not know how to reach out for support? Perhaps you relate to this. I sure did when I didn’t make feeling good my top priority and felt disconnected.

Why having support is important and not an option?
1. Self-trust increases
2. Self-confidence increases
3. Self-worth (self-love) increases
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Copyright ©2014 Yvonne St-Louis

Being in Agreement With Your Life Choices‏

Being in Agreement With Your Life Choices

As the new year approaches it is a good time to review the current year and adjust your vision to make sure that it is tied with your values.

My pay it forward is to be a Mentor for a young woman, Anna who is aspiring to become an international entrepreneur. I myself am mentored by a person with the Foundation of Entrepreneurship and I feel very blessed therefore this inspired me to pay it forward.

Yesterday, Anna and I we were talking together before we officially agreed to our Mentor and Mentee relationship of why she wanted to be in the textile business at an international level. She spoke with her heart and told me that she felt this push inside. I quickly got it that these are soul pulls gently tugging at her. She wants to ”value women’s clothing and make beautiful clothes available at an affordable price so women can value themselves with beautiful clothes in countries where this is a challenge for women”.

Quickly the leader in me inquired about vision and values and how this was tied in with her heartfelt desire.

WHY glueing your vision and core values to the pulls of your soul make your foundation very solid?
1. This represents your uniqueness
2. Easily, this motivate you to build momentum
3. The right people show up at the right moment

If you struggle with an aspect of your life and need help to give space to the pulls and tugs of your soul to feel in alignment with the flow of your life there is a solution to this problem. Reach out. Get validation. Waiting that things will get better or change on their own is an illusion and wasted time that gets lost in the space of indifference and fear.

If no one around you fully understands your motivation and does not fully believe in you and support you reach out. I would enjoy connecting with you.

Copyright ©2014 Yvonne St-Louis

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From Scared to Faith

From Scared to Faith

I want to focus on what is the opposite of scared. You will love this. In the letters S C A R E D is also the letters S A C R E D.

Feeling scared usually holds insecurity. It is not the same thing as a fear. Fear can be either the presence of real danger, or uncertainty. When you know your fears you can surpass the fear by allowing yourself to lean a little into certainty by feeling supported with a trusted person, by recalling your past victories, and also by leaning into Spirit for guidance. Your actions will empower you to overcome the fear.

Insecurity is a deep tension. It is a state. There is a good reason why you feel scared. If you ignore this or reject how you feel you are abandoning yourself.

When you take courage into your own hands with the intention of wanting to uncover what this is all about it reveals precious information. This insecure state is transformed with time and action. It does not happen over night.

In order to start transforming the scared to sacred you need to want to learn what is causing you to feel this way. The separateness of ego or deep heartache cannot be resolved through your thoughts and your emotions. It is precisely this that is causing you to feel scared. This can be resolved at a higher level with the intelligence of your heart, Spirit

Creating a Soulful Vision

Creating a Soulful Vision

Soulful Wellness Theme for Fall 2013: Be the CEO of Your Life

Surviving, Waiting for…  VS  Thriving With Reality and A Vision

Creating a Soulful Vision asks you to keep your heart open. How you connect with what you want and desire is key.

There are very precise ways on how to transform your struggles into clarity and action that is perfectly aligned with your vision even when it gets difficult.  Read more